No More Power Struggles

Learn to set boundaries, take back your power without crushing your child's spirit or compromising yourself.

Are you EXHAUSTED from getting into daily power struggles with your child?

Everything you say, they challenge or push?
 Agggh! So frustrating  and triggering.

“Whenever we get “triggered”, we’ve stumbled on something that needs healing. Seriously. Any time your child pushes your buttons, he’s showing you an unresolved issue from your own childhood.”  
― Dr Laura Markham, Aha Parenting.

HOW GOOD ARE YOU AT SAYING NO?


Can you say no and mean it?
Can you stick to your nowithout backing down?
Are you AFRAID of saying no because of the emotional reaction that follows?  
Perhaps you even feel guilty or mean for saying no?
Or you avoid asserting your needs?
Or IGNORE your child's requests?
Maybe sometimes, you resort to threats, bribes or punishments?

BOUNDARIES ARE ESSENTIAL

Children without boundaries can grow up becoming people pleasers.They find it hard to make decisions.
Without boundaries, they are wide open and a soft target for frenemies, bullies and toxic friendships.

“Parents get into trouble when they don’t empathize with their child’s pain. They either over identify with the pain of the child and give in, or they
get angry at the child’s pain and go to war. Empathy and keeping the limit is the answer for both extremes.”  ― Henry Cloud


Would it help you to know that your strong-willed sensitive child will always push the boundaries?

And you can learn to handle that in a way which preserves the very essence of them: their tenacity and determination, and their beautiful kind hearts.  


They have come into the world to break down and challenge old systems. They make great leaders which is awesome. I call these children WildHearts and you can read more about other qualities of Wildhearts here.

HAPPY boundaried MUMS

I just loved taking time out to reflect on things. I need to let my child find their way and stop controlling certain situations. I thought I was protecting her but I am actually stopping her from growing and working out what feels right or not okay. You’re right, what is she going to do when I am not there!? She needs to practise herself so she can handle things herself. I can support her but I can’t keep fixing and rescuing her, it is exhausting for me and really unhelpful for her growing up."

"It was a MASSIVE eye opener for me that when I get triggered by something my children do, it actually has very little to do with them. It wasn’t until you asked us to think about something and you asked certain questions that I realised this was the case. I feel that will make a massive difference ‘in the moment’ in future. Looking forward to trying out the scripts! Thank you! "


Wow thank you Lisa what a powerful course...much better than sitting on the sofa scrolling through FB or watching telly! I just loved being in that place where other mums were being honest and we were making each other feel better as we know we are not alone with this stuff and that it is okay to make mistakes as a parent “I’m only human after all”!

Do you wish your child would just do as you ask them?
Strong-willed children act from a place of integrity so if they believe something isn't right for them, then they won't do it. It's commendable because they want to do the right thing. It's just not the right thing for you.

How can you remember you're on the SAME team?
The child who pushes your buttons is actually a gift and will help you grow and learn new things about yourself and the world you live in. Even though right now I'm sure it doesn't feel like that!!

How can you find a more harmonious outcome for everybody?
When there is a constant tension between you and your child, it can overspill into the rest of the family. It lurks in the background and walking around on eggshells not knowing if it will all kick off creates anxiety for you and for them. Having good boundaries makes it clear where the line is and means your child will feel safer and secure.


will this course help me?

Take back control and strengthen your relationship with your child! You teach people how to treat you! What you allow will continue.
 When you learn how to set consistent, empathetic boundaries, your relationship with your child will improve from a place of love and mutual respect.

- Your child will feel SAFER (less anxiety)
- Your child will be strengthening their ability to CONTROL themselves (emotionally regulate)
- Your child will be ASSERTIVE (no passive aggression or aggression here) and therefore less likely to be BULLIED
- Your child will be clearer about who they are (a clear sense of self and okay without you)

- Your child will be able to make the right decision (for them!)
- Your child won't be a people pleaser and will value themselves
- Your child will be able to get their needs met (without manipulating or feeling ashamed)

It makes parenting easier. You'll have a more collaborative and cooperative relationship with your child because it will feel like you're on the same team.

- You can STOP exhausting yourself trying to control everything
- 'Yes!' stops becoming your automatic response to everything

- You can let go of worry, feel safer and more relaxed
- You can stop trying to save the world with your pants over your trousers (not a good look!)
- You won't have to threaten or bribe or shame your child into cooperating
- You will enjoy parenting and being with your strong-willed sensitive child again
- You won't have to repeat yourself over and over

This online learning pack is NOT for you if ....

- you're looking for a magic bullet or a quick fix
- you are comfortable setting and upholding boundaires with your child
- you're confident dealing with your child's big emotions
- you regularly connect with empathy to your child 

- you're are able to parent without using punishment, bribes or threats
- you're not going to prioritise this and dedicate some time to this every day

This online learning pack is for you if ....

- you have a strong-willed sensitive child who pushes your boundaries
- you feel as if your child isn't cooperating or respecting you
- you have been using punishment and it's not working
- you're overparenting - feeling your child's feelings, protecting them from their feelings or mistakes and doing things which they can and should be doing for themselves
- you want to deep dive into your relationship with your child & make it work
- you have been brought up in an addicted family (even if you are the adult child of an addict) or you are aware that you are or might be codependent
-  your child has separation anxiety or struggles to do things without you

Special Bonus Features

A Beautiful Morning Guided Visualisation to set your intention each day.
   
Super Handy Booklet containing 12 scripts of what to say in those frustrating parenting situations like:

1: Script for Not Paying Attention
2: Script for Anger
3: Script for Non Co-operation
4: Script for Defiance
5: Script for Constant Demands
6: Script for Frustration
7: Script for Bad Mood
8: Script for Squabbling
9: Script for When you are Triggered
10: Script for When your Boundary is Disappointing
11: Script for When Emotions Run High
12: Script for When you Feel Disrespected

Reading Recommendations to further your knowledge if you want to.  
Bonus Video: Why Punishment Doesn't Work.

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Sue

Just what I needed! Thank You Smiley!

I've heard people talk about boundaries a lot but didn't really understand why they were so important and how they would feature in my life at all. In fact, I have to admit that I wasn't quite sure how they were going to make such a massive difference to everything. On this course, I learnt the importance of having boundaries as a Mum - I've managed to improve my self care and stop saying yes to everything without feeling guilty. So I guess you could say I have more self respect and more of an understanding of what I need. I've also learnt how to set boundaries with my children without having to scream or shout. We're a lot a calmer as a family now, it's given us more structure and we all know what's what. Thank you so much for all the brilliant tips, exercises and support. You deliver it in a way that makes me feel like you understand - not that I'm doing it wrong. I feel reassured by you. I know I'll be diving back in to the additional resources when I'm ready. Thank you so much!

2 years ago
Miranda

always smiley

This course & Lisa have been so helpful for me learning about boundaries after years of being in a narcissistic relationship

2 years ago

Learn to set boundaries, take back your power without crushing your child's spirit or compromising yourself.
No More Power Struggles

£99
(was £149)